The Struggle of Being Single

   I'm a firm believer in everybody is meant for somebody. Sometimes it's hard to believe that it's true when you're sitting in your bed alone on a Friday night craving attention from some boy. I'm also sure that boy that you are dying to date on that one football team is not looking at you and wanting a loving Christ centered relationship either. I'm sure he has something better in mind for himself...
    Ever since I was younger I've looked up to the relationship my parents had and I have envied it with everything in me. They have been married for 24 years and sure they have their ups and downs, but they treat each other with respect and love. LADIES LISTEN-- NO matter how "hot" or "charming" a guy is, if he doesn't love the Lord more than he'll love you, then he is NOT the one for you. As female Christians, I believe we deal with the everyday struggle of lusting. Yes, lusting happens to everybody at some point. Instead of looking at the inside of somebody's heart, we look at their beautiful jaw lines, their defined stomach structure, and the way their arms look like they could move mountains. Under all the outside features there is a man that either loves the Lord, or he doesn't. He either busts his bottom to please him in everything he does, or he doesn't. He is either intentional in every action and does everything with grace or he doesn't. If he isn't praying with you, for you, or helping you in your walk with Christ every day that you feel like you aren't doing enough then he isn't for you. A man should pull you up every moment you feel down. He should show you your worth and importance to the Kingdom of God. He should hold your hand through every dark place and every moment worth celebrating. "But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."- Matthew 6:33. In other words, if you are not able to walk with Christ on your OWN, then you are NOT ready for someone else. You need to be able to seek God yourself, before somebody else seeks him with you. Being able to walk on your own is so important, because without that then you will never be able to walk with your significant other. You will never be able to hold someone else afloat during the hard times, if you can't even do it for yourself. I've learned it the hard way. Ever since I lost my brother nearly 8 years ago, I tried so hard to find a man to fill that void in my heart. However, after just a year in college I learned that without me being able to hold myself up alone and grieve on my own, then I will never be able to hold someone else up. "But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh."-Galatians 5:16. In other words, if you fall in love with the Lord first and take to heart his plan for you yourself, then God will bless you immensely and you will not feel the need to lust. So, remember all of this the next time your love for that player (literally) on the football team means more to you than your heart for God. You need to be able to thirst for the Lord and only him before you are ready for somebody else. You need to be able to feel weak every time that you read the bible, other than when you have that "one-night-stand" the weekend of that one party. You should be able to fall in love with the word and crave more and more from it. I have been single for two years and I do not regret even a second of it. I've began to pray over my future husband. I pray that I marry a man that is even half the man that my father is to my mom and I pray that when the time is right, my prince will come.
I believe that when God sends me the right man that we will be equally yoked and he will want to walk with me through every trial and tribulation that the world throws at us. He will pray with me and will seek him with me. Until that day comes, I will wait and pray and stay stead fast in the word and his plan for me. I hope that you wait for the right man to sweep you off your feet and I hope you continue to follow the Lord's plan for you.
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." -Jeremiah 29:11

With love,
Hollie Adams